A letter to Dad

Good day Dad. I trust you are doing well.

It would have been very nice to express myself to you face to face but unfortunately the circumstances do not allow for that to happen.

I have been thinking recently about many things that have taken place in my life. I must admit it would have been amazing to have you experience these events with me and Mom. I honestly dont know what happened between us. I would love to know what made you not want to give me the love I so needed from you. As I grew older, I experienced many situations that needed my father’s advice but I had to manage without it because you were not there.

I need to let you know that I was hurt when you disciplined me in a harsh manner that made feel like I was not even your only son. But I took it in as you are my parent. I lived all my life trying to please you because I did not want to be in your bad books.

What hurt the most is when you did not show up to all the crowning events in my life and some included my wedding and the birth of your precious grandchildren.

In your actions I started to think that you did not believe in me at all. This for some time made me feel like I am a failure. I honestly did not manage to win your love. I would envy some of my friends that you would laugh with and praise them when they did small jobs near you.

However I have grown to learn that the way you treated me does not determine the kind of a person I am becoming. I have worked hard to avoid falling into a trap of becoming a bitter, hateful and depressed person because of you.

I want to be a proof that I can stand beyong my situation and circumstances. I am working hard to become the best father to my children, because I dont want them to go through what I went through. I am working hard to become the best husband to my wife as I do not want my wife to go through what my mother went through.

Though i miss you and would have loved to have you in my life, know that I am managing very well. My mother has acted in your capacity and her role for all these years and she managed very well.

Know that I do not hate you at all fo what you did and failed to do. I have just grown to not allow you to control my life from a distance.

I wish you all the best that life has to offer.

Your Son

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What matter most right

What matters most right now

-Being a great Husband and a Father

-Achieve PHD

-Expand three businesses

How can this be achieved?

1. Help with Washing dishes

2. Help my wife with the kids.

3. Do my best to show love and respect to my wife.

4. Never forget what my mother went through to raise to be who I am today.

5. Work hard to protect and provide for my family.

6. Try my level best to study even when i don’t feel like it.

7. Approach investors, potential clients and potential suppliers.

8. Try harder when I fail, but never never give up.

Ps: These are thoughts to self. I will achieve. Sending them to the universe.

Not my words: but they are worth your time to read.

I have come to the pinnacle of success in business.

In the eyes of others, my life has been the symbol of success.

However, apart from work, I have little joy. Finally, my wealth is simply a fact to which I am accustomed.

At this time, lying on the hospital bed and remembering all my life, I realize that all the accolades and riches of which I was once so proud, have become insignificant with my imminent death.

In the dark, when I look at green lights, of the equipment for artificial respiration and feel the buzz of their mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of my approaching death looming over me.

Only now do I understand that once you accumulate enough money for the rest of your life, you have to pursue objectives that are not related to wealth.

It should be something more important:

For example, stories of love, art, dreams of my childhood.

No, stop pursuing wealth, it can only make a person into a twisted being, just like me.

God has made us one way, we can feel the love in the heart of each of us, and not illusions built by fame or money, like I made in my life, I cannot take them with me.

I can only take with me the memories that were strengthened by love.

This is the true wealth that will follow you; will accompany you, he will give strength and light to go ahead.

Love can travel thousands of miles and so life has no limits. Move to where you want to go. Strive to reach the goals you want to achieve. Everything is in your heart and in your hands.

What is the world’s most expensive bed? The hospital bed.

You, if you have money, you can hire someone to drive your car, but you cannot hire someone to take your illness that is killing you.

Material things lost can be found. But one thing you can never find when you lose: life.

Whatever stage of life where we are right now, at the end we will have to face the day when the curtain falls.

Please treasure your family love, love for your spouse, love for your friends…

Treat everyone well and stay friendly with your neighbours.

To the grandmothers, mothers, sisters and daughters

As a man, I have recently thought deeply about the fear that must be in our women. Many bad things happened, and many are still happening to them. Some even go unreported. I am imagining the trauma and how sad this must be to them that they feel like there is no one, no help coming from anywhere.

I thought of myself as a young lady full of hopes, goals and aspirations only to have my life cut in short because someone decided that I was not worth living. This brought so much fear and a deep lack of trust in men. As a man myself, this brought too much shame that women, have gotten to the point that they have lost trust in me. This is clearly because I have failed these women.

I thought deeply about how my daughter, my sister, my mother and my grandmother and other women around me are all not immuned to the possible hurt, pain, and even death that awaits them even in places that seem like safe places. This made me think of  how can I make these women and all women around my space feel safe, protected and appreciated.

The following thoughts came.

1. I need to cast out all negative and improper thoughts about women period.

2. I need to replace all traditions I have been taught that encourage the inferiority and nothingness of women with traditions that motivate, encourage and support women excellence.

3. I need to stop seeing women as servants (who slave in the house) for me but see them as capable co-partners, living side by side with me.

With these and many more positive thoughts, persistance and positive attitute. I will be a better man and thus bring about safety and a wholesome leaving among women.

Ps: these are my thoughts to help ME be a better man.